Preface to a Life Changing Challenge

A couple of weeks back I was asked to write a post for an old friend. We were drilling partners for four years, back in my high school wrestling days. I have to say I am blessed to have met him because throughout our training, we helped each other mold into young warriors.

This post is in loving memory of him, and serves as a reminder that it is our responsibility to take action against suicide. We do this by opening up our hearts, loving ourselves, and spreading our love to others.

How to Recalibrate your state of mind

Change your self-image.

We all have a unique way of viewing ourselves. I am not speaking about our physical presence, but what’s going on in our mind. Who we think we are. If you see yourself as a rock star, and truly believe that you are one then you will find anyway possible to become one. Sure you are going to fail, that’s part of the beauty of success. If we never faced adversity, what would make the journey special?

As humans we have this need to be consistent with who we think we are. Look around at your friends and people around you. Listen closely to what they talk about. You will notice that they have an image of themselves in their mind. Their speech patterns, social media post, and habits will all be congruent with that image.

The reason why I bring up changing your self-image is because if you are not happy with your life or if you feel like you are capable of more than you are currently doing then changing how you see yourself is the ultimate solution.

If you have created a strong foundation of positive thoughts about yourself then you are ahead of the game! But throughout my experience I have noticed that this isn’t always the case, we all seem to have our self-conscious doubts. There are a bunch of negative images we create in our minds such as ugly, fat, loser, lazy, dumb, weak, etc. Remember that these are just words that we have added a negative meaning to because of society, and we can either change our association with these words or delete them out of our vocabulary.

Below is a challenge that helped me recalibrate my mind, and which I believe will help you too.
The 7 Day Positive Challenge

I’d like to begin by saying that before you think of how difficult this is going to be, think of it as a challenge. The word difficult or any of its synonyms, in my opinion, seems to give the task at hand a higher probability of a negative outcome. I like the word challenge instead because, although it may not come naturally, it is viewed as something that will lead to a positive result once it is overcome.

Now lets explain how this works. This challenge consist of you being positive for seven days straight. Negative thoughts are going to come in and out of your mind; the key here is to limit them. You must recognize them, and within 30 seconds to a minute of realizing that you are in a negative state of mind switch to positive thoughts. Keep in mind that negative thoughts are alright, they’re natural. Just acknowledge them, accept them and boot them out.

I know, your initial reaction may be that this seems impossible. Don’t worry that’s just the negativity talking. It is 100% possible regardless of who you are, what you have been through or how great your attention span is.


  • Increased self-acceptance
  • Stronger self-belief
  • Boost in confidence
  • Overall happier outlook on life
  • Increased enthusiasm
  • Greater resistance to illnesses/stress/depression
  • Increased motivation
  • Better performance at work
  • “Difficult” task become opportunities
  • More and healthier relationships

The best part of this challenge is that all this positive thinking creates a snowball effect. Positive thoughts will start to flow with so much ease. I recently finished this challenge, and it is interesting how our mind will create that shift. We go into the challenge wondering how feasible this lifestyle even is. But once you complete it you will feel so great about yourself, that you will naturally want to do the challenge for longer. I mean with all that power why wouldn’t you?

A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes – Mahatma Gandhi